December 28, 2010
M. Johnson asked:
It is not easy for men over 40 to get back in the game of dating. Face it you are out of practice. Some of you never had any practice. But it is never too late. The past is gone, you only have time going forward to worry about. Forget the past and turn yourself into an attractive guy with a lot ot offer.
Women will respond, in some ways you have a lot of advantages. You have experience, confidence and probably more money than younger guys so don’t let your age hold you back. Woman find certain traits important and those traits will overcome your looks and age. If you can show her who you are. It isn’t easy to find dating tips for older men but they are out there. All dating tips work the same because women respond to them, unconsciously. Read them all because you can still use them if you are older.
You just need to make them work for you. Forget your age and carry on. If you don’t have a problem with an age difference, she wont. Attitude is the key. Stress your positives and have some fun. Just don’t try to dress or act young, be who you are.
Some things that you may be afraid are going to hold you back.
Being divorced or having kids.
You are too old, she would never want to date you.
You have forgotten how to date a woman.
Divorced men worry about dating advice not working because they are divorced. But women really don’t care if you are divorced. As long as it doesn’t follow you around like baggage or lead to problems dealing with your ex. If you are cool with it and get along with the ex, she will have no problem, in fact she may be impressed by how well you handle life. Kids are not much of a problem for women, they seem to like to see how you take care of things. If you are a good dad, she will notice.
Advice for dating younger women. Don’t worry about if she wants to date you. Ask anyway, many younger women are dating older men these days. If it isn’t a concern of yours, she will date you. As long as you make sure you treat her like a woman and not a little girl. Never talk down to her or pretend you are 20 years old. Use your qualities and presence to treat her well and appreciate her for more than her beauty. You have nothing to lose by asking for a date. And there is no law against you dating a woman younger than you. People may talk, but really who cares. You get to sleep with her. Isn’t that worth it? Remember younger women will date older men, they do it all the time.
Now a lot of older men worry they have forgotten how to date women. This is not a concern, because you do have years of interacting with people. You just need to relearn a few dating tips. Just the basics. How to approach, how to show off your good points and how to just have fun again. Get out there and practice for 3 weeks and after 2 or 3 dates you will get right into it.
Ok, there you have some good tips to get you back out there dating. Dating is normal human behavior. We are social creatures who yearn for a companion. Just get out there again and start asking women out to fun exciting dates. Pretend you are a teenager again, and just go have fun. Be more social and get out of the house 3 nights a week. You can chill the other 4 nights. One more key, don’t do what young guys do and rush things. Don’t be too eager, just relax and be comfortable.
Read a few books and then start dating again. All you have to do is ask her out. It may help you if you start dating women over 40 first just to get back in the swing of things, you will have more in common with them and it is easier than trying to jump back into dating chasing 25 year old girls. Once you can date women easily, now you are ready to go after a beautiful younger woman. But you have to have good game and be able to offer her something others can not.
It is not easy for men over 40 to get back in the game of dating. Face it you are out of practice. Some of you never had any practice. But it is never too late. The past is gone, you only have time going forward to worry about. Forget the past and turn yourself into an attractive guy with a lot ot offer.
Women will respond, in some ways you have a lot of advantages. You have experience, confidence and probably more money than younger guys so don’t let your age hold you back. Woman find certain traits important and those traits will overcome your looks and age. If you can show her who you are. It isn’t easy to find dating tips for older men but they are out there. All dating tips work the same because women respond to them, unconsciously. Read them all because you can still use them if you are older.
You just need to make them work for you. Forget your age and carry on. If you don’t have a problem with an age difference, she wont. Attitude is the key. Stress your positives and have some fun. Just don’t try to dress or act young, be who you are.
Some things that you may be afraid are going to hold you back.
Being divorced or having kids.
You are too old, she would never want to date you.
You have forgotten how to date a woman.
Divorced men worry about dating advice not working because they are divorced. But women really don’t care if you are divorced. As long as it doesn’t follow you around like baggage or lead to problems dealing with your ex. If you are cool with it and get along with the ex, she will have no problem, in fact she may be impressed by how well you handle life. Kids are not much of a problem for women, they seem to like to see how you take care of things. If you are a good dad, she will notice.
Advice for dating younger women. Don’t worry about if she wants to date you. Ask anyway, many younger women are dating older men these days. If it isn’t a concern of yours, she will date you. As long as you make sure you treat her like a woman and not a little girl. Never talk down to her or pretend you are 20 years old. Use your qualities and presence to treat her well and appreciate her for more than her beauty. You have nothing to lose by asking for a date. And there is no law against you dating a woman younger than you. People may talk, but really who cares. You get to sleep with her. Isn’t that worth it? Remember younger women will date older men, they do it all the time.
Now a lot of older men worry they have forgotten how to date women. This is not a concern, because you do have years of interacting with people. You just need to relearn a few dating tips. Just the basics. How to approach, how to show off your good points and how to just have fun again. Get out there and practice for 3 weeks and after 2 or 3 dates you will get right into it.
Ok, there you have some good tips to get you back out there dating. Dating is normal human behavior. We are social creatures who yearn for a companion. Just get out there again and start asking women out to fun exciting dates. Pretend you are a teenager again, and just go have fun. Be more social and get out of the house 3 nights a week. You can chill the other 4 nights. One more key, don’t do what young guys do and rush things. Don’t be too eager, just relax and be comfortable.
Read a few books and then start dating again. All you have to do is ask her out. It may help you if you start dating women over 40 first just to get back in the swing of things, you will have more in common with them and it is easier than trying to jump back into dating chasing 25 year old girls. Once you can date women easily, now you are ready to go after a beautiful younger woman. But you have to have good game and be able to offer her something others can not.
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December 20, 2010
Kyle Rieves asked:
Are You Looking for the “Secret Psychology” to Getting A Man Hooked for Good?
Here are three dating tips for women for better understanding men. If you pay attention to these three things (words and actions) early on in the relationship, you will have a better idea both of how well your relationship is going and how the man thinks it’s going. Much of the dating tips for women don’t mention that men sometimes don’t use words at all when they are communicating with you.
Man Code Dating Tip #1: A Man Tells You He Needs His Space
This means you should take little notice of him and not call him. Men love the chase. The man will begin calling you wanting to know what happened. By not making yourself too available early on, you keep him on his feet, which is a good thing in the first stage of the relationship.
Man Code Dating Tip #2: He Calls You Every Night Just To Say Goodnight
Other than the obvious reason, a man tends to do this in the early stages of the relationship as a way of seeing if he still likes you. Calling you this soon into a relationship means that he is interested in you. If he continues to do this as the days pass, it is a good sign he is interested having a relationship with you.
Man Code Dating Tip #3: The Car Rescue
You are all set to meet up with him for a date and you plan on meeting him somewhere close to his house. All of a sudden you run into car problems. You contact him to say you ran into car problems and you can’t make it. If he offers to pick you up, or better yet insists on it, he is telling you that he is interested in you more than just being a friend. Guys only go out of they’re way for women they are interested in.
Are You Looking for the “Secret Psychology” to Getting A Man Hooked for Good?
Here are three dating tips for women for better understanding men. If you pay attention to these three things (words and actions) early on in the relationship, you will have a better idea both of how well your relationship is going and how the man thinks it’s going. Much of the dating tips for women don’t mention that men sometimes don’t use words at all when they are communicating with you.
Man Code Dating Tip #1: A Man Tells You He Needs His Space
This means you should take little notice of him and not call him. Men love the chase. The man will begin calling you wanting to know what happened. By not making yourself too available early on, you keep him on his feet, which is a good thing in the first stage of the relationship.
Man Code Dating Tip #2: He Calls You Every Night Just To Say Goodnight
Other than the obvious reason, a man tends to do this in the early stages of the relationship as a way of seeing if he still likes you. Calling you this soon into a relationship means that he is interested in you. If he continues to do this as the days pass, it is a good sign he is interested having a relationship with you.
Man Code Dating Tip #3: The Car Rescue
You are all set to meet up with him for a date and you plan on meeting him somewhere close to his house. All of a sudden you run into car problems. You contact him to say you ran into car problems and you can’t make it. If he offers to pick you up, or better yet insists on it, he is telling you that he is interested in you more than just being a friend. Guys only go out of they’re way for women they are interested in.
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October 2, 2010
Allan Tan asked:
Sometimes, women get the impression that men aren’t interested in dating them because of their independence. Now, just because women are independent doesn’t mean they don’t want or need men. It means they’re paying their own bills. It means they’re making life work on their own. It doesn’t mean they view men as second-class citizens. It does mean they don’t expect men they’re dating to come into their lives, pay for everything and make their lives suddenly better. And yet, dating women who are independent feel they give men a vibe that they’re not dating material.
Qualities of Independent Women
Women who are independent, but not feminist, take care of their lives themselves. That’s not to say they don’t have the occasional problems everyone has, but they make do. Like everyone else. Dating women who are independent should be a good thing. But yet, they often feel they scare men away.
Typically, dating women who consider themselves to be independent, but who aren’t feminists (that’s a whole other subject), don’t see men as below them, don’t think it’s a bad thing to ask men for help, but don’t think they need men to care for them. In fact, they’d love to be in dating relationships with them. Independent women aren’t necessarily the ones making 6-figure salaries. They might barely be making 30 grand a year, but she can pay her bills, go out and have fun and buy things that aren’t necessarily in her budget. How do independent women view themselves?
*Pay their bills themselves
*If they have credit card debts – or other debts – they pay them
*They have their own friends
*They fill time by doing things they want to do
*They don’t ask permission from other people
*They make decisions for themselves
*They take care of their cars – even if that means calling in a professional
*Intelligent
*Financially secure
Unfortunately, that’s not necessarily the way others perceive independent women.
The Way Independent Women Come Across
The number of times men say (about a woman they’ve been dating), “She’s just too independent for me,” is ridiculous. Most of the time, if you were to ask the women dating, they wouldn’t know why. They might have paid for the dates every once in awhile, but they don’t find that unreasonable. Maybe they went on vacation without consulting the person they were dating. Whatever the reason, they were too much. Why? Some common ways they were women who are independent are seen include:
*She flaunts her money
*She think she’s better than others
*She’s demanding
*She acts like she doesn’t need others
*She’s spoiled
Getting Past the Stigma
So, how do women who are independent get past this stigma without giving up the things they value? Even women who are independent like dating. They like the security of being in a relationship. They just don’t want a man who thinks he’s going to be her knight in shining armor and make life perfect for her. What can make men interested in women who are “too independent?” She can:
*Let him pay if he offers
*Saying thank you when the man you’re dating pays
*If you’re having sex, make sure both of you are enjoying it
*Let him hold the door open for you if you want
Men dating independent women should:
*Let her make the decisions that affect her life
*Take charge in the dating life, but let her contribute
*If she offers to pay, let her, or say, “You did last time, now it’s my turn”
*Offer help in areas you excel – cars, finances, pets
Sometimes, women get the impression that men aren’t interested in dating them because of their independence. Now, just because women are independent doesn’t mean they don’t want or need men. It means they’re paying their own bills. It means they’re making life work on their own. It doesn’t mean they view men as second-class citizens. It does mean they don’t expect men they’re dating to come into their lives, pay for everything and make their lives suddenly better. And yet, dating women who are independent feel they give men a vibe that they’re not dating material.
Qualities of Independent Women
Women who are independent, but not feminist, take care of their lives themselves. That’s not to say they don’t have the occasional problems everyone has, but they make do. Like everyone else. Dating women who are independent should be a good thing. But yet, they often feel they scare men away.
Typically, dating women who consider themselves to be independent, but who aren’t feminists (that’s a whole other subject), don’t see men as below them, don’t think it’s a bad thing to ask men for help, but don’t think they need men to care for them. In fact, they’d love to be in dating relationships with them. Independent women aren’t necessarily the ones making 6-figure salaries. They might barely be making 30 grand a year, but she can pay her bills, go out and have fun and buy things that aren’t necessarily in her budget. How do independent women view themselves?
*Pay their bills themselves
*If they have credit card debts – or other debts – they pay them
*They have their own friends
*They fill time by doing things they want to do
*They don’t ask permission from other people
*They make decisions for themselves
*They take care of their cars – even if that means calling in a professional
*Intelligent
*Financially secure
Unfortunately, that’s not necessarily the way others perceive independent women.
The Way Independent Women Come Across
The number of times men say (about a woman they’ve been dating), “She’s just too independent for me,” is ridiculous. Most of the time, if you were to ask the women dating, they wouldn’t know why. They might have paid for the dates every once in awhile, but they don’t find that unreasonable. Maybe they went on vacation without consulting the person they were dating. Whatever the reason, they were too much. Why? Some common ways they were women who are independent are seen include:
*She flaunts her money
*She think she’s better than others
*She’s demanding
*She acts like she doesn’t need others
*She’s spoiled
Getting Past the Stigma
So, how do women who are independent get past this stigma without giving up the things they value? Even women who are independent like dating. They like the security of being in a relationship. They just don’t want a man who thinks he’s going to be her knight in shining armor and make life perfect for her. What can make men interested in women who are “too independent?” She can:
*Let him pay if he offers
*Saying thank you when the man you’re dating pays
*If you’re having sex, make sure both of you are enjoying it
*Let him hold the door open for you if you want
Men dating independent women should:
*Let her make the decisions that affect her life
*Take charge in the dating life, but let her contribute
*If she offers to pay, let her, or say, “You did last time, now it’s my turn”
*Offer help in areas you excel – cars, finances, pets
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